The DO’s and DOMES!

antidepressants“One pill, two pill, three pill, four, five pill, six pill, seven pill, floor.” – Anon

A few weeks ago I had a conversation with a young lady. During the conversation she started to peel back the cornhusks of her personal life and revealed certain things to me that most individuals don’t know about her. She expressed her immense desire to go to a concert so that she can hang out with her friends, drink, and do drugs. Then she went to state “If I’m not high on domes then I’m home sleeping!” Now for those that don’t have a master’s degree in street slang, domes are the street name for the drug Lysergic Acid Diethylamide (LSD). LSD is known for its psychological effects that include altered thinking processes, synesthesia, an altered sense of time and spiritual experiences. During the conversation, I attempted to open her eyes to the underlying truth that her life is valuable and she shouldn’t waste it chasing after an insignificant and temporary induced high.

“What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us.” – Anon

Our lives are important and we exist to fulfill a greater purpose. Each day we are blessed to inhale the sweet nectar that is air, we are given another opportunity to make a difference. What we do next, and the choices we make are up to us. I have no clue if my conversation added to the account stored in her memory banks. I hope it did.

However, there’s a maxim that states, “you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink”.

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All about the Benjamins!

money_rect“The best way to make happy money is to make money your hobby and not your god.” – Scott Alexander

It has come to my attention that the world we live in has now become littered with individuals that have allowed their minds to fall victim to the degenerative disease known as materialism. These individuals play the leading role in their personal movie entitled “The Pursuit of Money”. The acquisition of money serves as their only form of true happiness. Last week a lady told me, “I really love having, making, and spending money. I really, really love money, who doesn’t?” Yesterday a guy told me “I want to make a bunch of money so that girls would throw their bodies at me.” Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with working towards a better life for oneself, experiencing financial security and making money. However, when did society’s GPS device recalculate and reroute us onto the side street of greed, deep monetary obsession, and materiality?

“The chief value of money lies in the fact that one lives in a world in which it is overestimated.” – H. L. Mencken

     

The fact of the matter is that money is not the end all solution for an individual to find true happiness. No matter how much cash one can gather in the money blowing machine of life before the individual’s time expires, he or she will not be guaranteed happiness. For me, happiness is not determined by the hue of my credit card, my personal assets or by my net worth.

You can elect to chase money down the bottomless ravine or hang glide high above amongst the clouds of happiness!

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Enhanced Liquid for Thought?

decisions“Make decisions from the heart and use your head to make it work out.” – Sir Girad

A few days ago I decided to visit what can only be described as a vibrant oasis in the middle of the dessert for the individual (me) whose pantry has become as dry as Quaker rice cakes. I went on a pilgrimage to Wal-Mart! I decided to make my way to the checkout line after I placed a few essentials in my cart. I proceeded to make my way to the store exit after paying for my items. After taking three steps through the dreaded sliding doors that have inflicted pain on so many members of Texting Anonymous (TA), I noticed that there was an item in my cart that went undetected by the cashier. The item was a miniscule bottle of MiO Liquid water enhancer valued at a staggering $3.30 (based on US currency).

I’m standing outside the store with a decision to make. Do I continue walking to my car and act like nothing happened? Do I simply leave the item in the cart and take the items I paid for? Do I take the item home and pay ($3.30) extra for something else next time? Do I make a 360 turn and head all the way back in the store, stand in line (for undetermined amount of time since Wal-Mart never seems to have enough cashiers) to pay for the tiny item?

What would you do? Or would you have done nothing at all?

Each second of each day we are faced with decisions that vary in its level of complexity. No matter the decision, there is always a consequence (whether positive or negative) that will result from the choices we make.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Anthony Robbins

Don’t allow your to choices morph the shape of your destiny into an unsightly blob filled with holes!

P.S. I made the 360 turn, went back into the store, stood in line and paid for the item.

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PEN-ta-GONE!

“Sow much, reap much; sow little, reap little.” –Chinese Proverb

Today I decided to pass time in between my classes like I usually do. I sat down at a table and proceeded to jet ski along the choppy waves commonly known as the world wide web. I was casually minding my own business when I was interrupted by a friend with an unusual request. She asked to borrow a pen. I conducted a full scale investigative search of my backpack and realized that I only had one pen. To my chagrin, the pen in my backpack happened to be my favorite pen (yes, I have a favorite pen and I fully accept any ridicule that may follow). After losing the battle of wills that commence in the left hemisphere of my brain I told my friend that she could have my pen. Ten minutes later a different friend approached my table and (in a total act of randomness and for no apparent reason) handed me a pen.

Are you one to give without the intent of receiving? Do your give of your possessions, time, talents, or money to those in need? Do you even give at all?

“The charitable give out the door and God puts it back through the window.” –Proverb

Each day we are bombarded by a barrage of opportunities to give to those that need it most. We can choose a myriad of ways, forms, or platforms by which to give.

“Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” – 2 Corinthians 9: 6-7

The condition of heart determines the amount of impact your gift will have on the lives of others!

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The Bird’s the Word!

A week ago as I was casually driving away from the gym during the wee hours of the morning when an interesting chain of events ensued. I arrived at an intersection at the exact moment as a guy driving a truck. The guy turned in my direction and motioned to me that he was my number one fan. The guy essentially flipped the bird (as it is commonly referred to as) or to put it in lemans terms, he left all his fingers down except the finger in the middle of his pointer and ring finger. What compels a person to act so grotesque on such a riveting morning? The most befuddling part of the exchange was the fact that the man immediately sped off. Perhaps he felt sorry and embarrassed because of his impulsive action? Maybe he woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Or maybe he realized that he “flipped off” a slightly larger than average size, 6’5” African American male and wanted to put as much distance between him and I as possible?

How often do we allow an impulse reaction to serve a needle that injects a flu shot-like pain and hurt in the lives of those around us?

“All of our actions take their hue from the complexion of the heart, as landscapes their variety from light.” – Francis Bacon

An individual’s actions are a direct reflection of the type of content that consumes one’s heart.

Let your actions serve as the support beams that hold up the house of life you’ve built using the dazzling bricks of character!

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A Few Good Men

Each day we are reminded of how cold, and desolate this world is we inhabit. As the maxim goes, “Times have changed.” Our world has become a more violent and deadly version of what it was a few decades ago. Crime in its many atrocious forms is rising faster than a ball of yeast-filled cinnamon bread on a hot Saturday morning.

What caused this swift plummet into this worldly cesspool destitute of the values and morals that shape character?

Despite the current state of our world, we can rest assure that hope still abounds. Though it may not always seem so there are still good people out there.  A few days ago I was reminded of that. While I was knee deep into my rigorous workout routine at the gym I noticed that my cell phone was missing. I immediately scoured every inch of the gym searching for my cell phone as if it was scanning for clues on a crime scene. My phone happens to be an Iphone 4, and those things aren’t cheap. I thought someone found it and claimed it under the notion that “possession is nine-tenths the law”. After countless minutes had elapsed and my search efforts turned up void, I decided to do the unthinkable. I went to the front desk and asked the most idiotic question ever; “Did anyone happen to turn in a phone?”  To my amazement; someone had. My phone was in the exact same condition as I last remembered it.

“You don’t get in life what you want; you get in life what you are.” – Les Brown

There are good people in this world; as long as they exist there is still hope that we can ignite a change that causes our world to shift back in the right direction.

Don’t leave your character at home when you decide to go somewhere!

To the special man or woman that returned my cell phone to the front desk, if you are reading this;  Thank You!

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Father Time!

A father is often defined as a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider. In my humble opinion a father is more than a generic definition. There is no monetary value that can be placed on the importance of a father’s presence in the household.

A father goes out of his way to ensure that his kids enjoy a childhood that is superior to the one he had. A father makes time to share in the interests of his kids. A father spends countless hours teaching his child a sport, how to repair a car, or how to survive in the wild. A father takes any moment to teach his child important life lessons that will be involuntarily passed on to the next generation. A father makes time to attend as many of his child’s sporting events as he possibly can. A father in his excitement forgets to record his son’s first dunk with the camcorder in his hand because he’s temporarily suspended in midair yelling at the top of his lungs. I’ve been blessed and privileged to have amazing father. My father has greatly influenced and played a direct role in the man I’ve become today. It is my hope that I too will leave an indelible mark on my kids in a similar manner as my dad left on me.

“I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us.” –Umberto Eco

I don’t know nature of the relationship you have with your father. However, it is imperative that you take every opportunity to build your relationship with your father while he is still alive. You can start by calling your father to tell him how much you appreciate him.

Happy Father’s Day!

A very special Happy Father’s Day goes out to my father in the Bahamas!

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A Not So Thunderous Storm!

According to the meteorologists and all the other weather SME’s (Subject Matter Experts); a massive thunderstorm (with anywhere from golf ball to baseball-sized hail) was going to make its way into north Texas by the early afternoon. Naturally, I tried to plan for the apocalyptic end of the world as best as I could (via toting an umbrella) once I heard the news. Of course today turned out to be a sunny, 92 degree day devoid of precipitation. A thought rang in my head like the cacophonous sound of an exasperating alarm clock at 5 in the morning.

How often do we allow ourselves to fret over things that we shouldn’t?

“Stop worrying about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey!” – Barbara Hoffman

Let’s try our best not to sweat the small stuff or become frazzled by things we cannot control. Life never works out in the exact manner that we may hope, dream, or imagine.

Benjamin Franklin stated “Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen.  Keep in the sunlight.”

Worry can become an arduous burden that can crush an individual. Don’t allow worry to steal away today’s joy!

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IndividuaLESStic World

Have you ever found yourself in a state of bewilderment at the exquisite intricacies and differences of the human race? We’ve all heard the maxim “To each, his own!” This saying endorses the premise that every person is entitled to his or her own personal preferences, tastes, etc.

No two people are exactly alike. Our brains are precisely wired in order to highlight our specific quirks and qualities. (There are some with a short or loose connection throughout the circuitry of their brain but that’s a topic for another time). I can’t describe the immense looks of abhorrence and dismay that splashes across the faces of individuals once they discover that I detest (with a passion) the death in a jar referred to as peanut butter. I guess I was traumatized at a young age by a family member’s decision to use the same knife when making a PB&J (peanut butter and jelly) sandwich. I wanted a J sandwich and always got putrid traces of PB. Its nuances like those that serve as the cement used to foundation of our individuality. Imagine how drab this world be if we were carbon-copy drone like clones of each other lacking free will or cognitive skills.

“No one should part with their individuality and become that of another.” – William Ellery Channing

If you yield up the qualities that define your individuality, you would have in essence robbed those around you of experiencing of getting to know you.

Don’t allow become a less attractive generic version of someone else!

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Wall-Et Shame

A few moons ago when I was nine years old I went on a trip to visit a few of my relatives. Being the robust and adventurous kid that I was, it irked me to be cooped up in the confined space of a hotel room. Thus, I decided to prance around the hotel lobby like an antelope in a fresh green meadow during the middle of spring. I made my way to an area where a pay phone was located and my eyes became fixated on a rectangular object. The object in question turned out to be a pleasantly plump wallet. I was only nine but my face lit up like the North Star once I saw a wallet full of bills with Benjamin Franklin’s face on it.

I took the wallet to my grandpa and asked what I should do with the wallet. His words, “Keep it!” I shared my predicament with a friend who told me to “Keep the money and turn in the wallet with the credit cards intact.” If you found yourself in my position what would you do?

“You can never lose anything that really belongs to you, and you can’t keep that which belongs to someone else.” – Edgar Cayce

In society today we’ve adoption the kindergarten playground notion “finders keepers, losers weepers”. When did it become unpopular to be honest? How did the ethical and moral behavior of our society deteriorate to the level in which integrity is a now faux pas occurring once in every blue moon?

We need to make a greater effort to do what is right even if even if no one is looking!

If you were wondering, I turned the wallet in to the front desk. The owner wrote me a heartfelt letter and gave me $5. To this day I still feel good about what I did. Would I go back and change anything? Absolutely not!

 

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