Who Are You?

Who are you, concept words on blackboard.“There is a period of life when we swallow knowledge of ourselves and it becomes either good or sour inside.” –Pearl Bailey

A few weeks ago I participated in an interesting group activity. The participants were distributed in groups of twos and instructed to face one another. One person was directed to ask the question “Who are you?” The other person would then respond with one word that describes him/her. This sequence would be repeated as much as the 30 second allotted time frame would allow. Once the activity commenced, a cacophony of vocabulary rhetoric ensued that mimicked that of the unpredictable clamor of thunder and lightning during a harsh electrical storm. When my opportunity came I spewed out words like “strong”, “intelligent”, “confident”, “visionary” etc. However, at the end of the exercise the instructor posed a thought-provoking question that hit me like a pillow case full of bricks. He asked, “Did anyone give any negative responses?”

“One secures the gold of the spirit when he finds himself.” – Claude M. Bristol

As humans we prefer to accentuate our positive qualities while neglecting or masking our faults. As we paddle down our river of life we experience feelings of insecurity, fear, confusion, or brokenness.  We choose to leave our weak areas hidden so that we will not be at risk of having to face the brunt of society’s harsh criticism and ridicule. We all have negative traits that could use some polishing, buffing, or a good scrub.

We must first know who we are, before we can make the changes needed to become who we want to be!

So ask yourself, WHO ARE YOU?

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All about the Benjamins!

money_rect“The best way to make happy money is to make money your hobby and not your god.” – Scott Alexander

It has come to my attention that the world we live in has now become littered with individuals that have allowed their minds to fall victim to the degenerative disease known as materialism. These individuals play the leading role in their personal movie entitled “The Pursuit of Money”. The acquisition of money serves as their only form of true happiness. Last week a lady told me, “I really love having, making, and spending money. I really, really love money, who doesn’t?” Yesterday a guy told me “I want to make a bunch of money so that girls would throw their bodies at me.” Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with working towards a better life for oneself, experiencing financial security and making money. However, when did society’s GPS device recalculate and reroute us onto the side street of greed, deep monetary obsession, and materiality?

“The chief value of money lies in the fact that one lives in a world in which it is overestimated.” – H. L. Mencken

     

The fact of the matter is that money is not the end all solution for an individual to find true happiness. No matter how much cash one can gather in the money blowing machine of life before the individual’s time expires, he or she will not be guaranteed happiness. For me, happiness is not determined by the hue of my credit card, my personal assets or by my net worth.

You can elect to chase money down the bottomless ravine or hang glide high above amongst the clouds of happiness!

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Here’s Looking at You Kid!

As I reluctantly ambled down the halls to one of my classes today I happened to take notice of the different type of looks I received as I drew closer to my destination. The word look is usually defined as the act of employing one’s sight, especially in a given direction or on a given object. It’s moments like these when we feel as though we are stuck in a petri dish being examined under the microscopic lens of society. There’s the “do I know you’ gaze, the ‘you have something in your teeth’ glare, the ‘what are you wearing’ gawp, the ‘I think you look good’ gape or my personal favorite the ‘I just saw you do something embarrassing” gawk. We’ve all found ourselves in a similar position at some point in our lives where we may have become the object that caught a random stranger’s eye.

“Since light travels faster than sound, people appear bright until you hear them speak.” – Anon

When people look at you what perceptions do they make about you? How would you like to be perceived?

“You are only as wise as others perceive you to be.” – M. Shawn Cole

Let your words, actions, and deeds create the majestic Rembrandt like painting of how others perceive you to be.

Ensure that the perception people have of you correlates with the perception you have of yourself!”

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Frog In A Tree

Last week during a conversation with a good friend (Bianca) of many years and interesting cluster of words were formed. The phrase in question was “A frog in a tree”. I remember an occasion while I went out for a leisurely stroll at night. As I approached a patch of shrubbery I was startled by the sound a movement of some kind. I paid no mind to where I was walking and came really close to steeping on a frog. I do not have a phobia of the slimy amphibian. However, I’m not going to follow Princess Tiana’s (from the Disney movie The Princess and the frog) footsteps and lock lips with Kermit the Frog’s distant cousin.

“It is no use trying to sum people up. One must follow hints, not exactly what is said, nor yet entirely what is done.” – Virginia Woolf

How often do we miss subtle clues or hints that a friend, significant other, teacher, spouse, etc. may be sending us? These clues if picked up on can assist in strengthening a relationship (Like most guys, I tend to miss the majority of these clues). These hints may be warning signs or even cries for help that can easily go unnoticed if we are too consumed with ourselves or snuggled to tightly in our cocoon of life.

We all need to make a greater effort to recognize and efficiently respond to the needs of those around us.

“People will teach you how to sell them if you’ll pay attention to the messages they send you.” – Anonymous

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Golden Achievement!

I’m sure for the last week we’ve all been bombarded by the jaw dropping spectacle of events known as the Olympic Games. If you have been living underneath a smooth, spherical rock on the Galapagos Islands its fine if you didn’t know the Olympics were taking place in London at this very moment. I’m always floored by the manner in which athletes are inspired to perform at a level which exceeds their expectations in order to win a gold medal and watch as his/her country’s flag is elevated to harmonious sounds of the respective national anthem. During this Olympics we are often treated to opportunities to watch athletes squeeze every ounce of will out of their bodies to push themselves to break and set world records. We were also given the opportunity to drink from the cup of inspiration while watching double amputee Oscar Pistorius realize his dream of competing in the Olympics against able-bodied athletes.

“The roots of true achievement lie in the will to become the best that you can become.” –Harold Taylor

How have you achieved? How have you making strides to become all that you can be? Are you even trying to achieve?

We have many opportunities to push ourselves to win a gold medal in achievement as we compete during our Olympic Games of life. An individual doesn’t need to be a finely oiled or sculpted athlete to achieve in the highest field of human endeavor. Achievement blossoms out of your will or desire to beat the odds and become better than you were before.

“Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny spark of possibility inside you into a flame of achievement.” –Anonymous

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Judge Me Not!

In society today there is a virus that is spreading as fast as a juicy gossip amongst high school students during lunch period. The virus in question is the practice of undeservedly placing judgment on others. The word “judge” can be defined as forming an estimate or evaluation of; especially to form a negative opinion about.

How often do we find ourselves judging others without any possessing an ounce of incriminating evidence that could hold up in the court of law? We are often quick to judge an individual based on what we see rather than taking the time to get to know the individual for who they are. We may even judge others in a negative light for the sheer purpose of making ourselves look better via false confidence.

We all plead guilty to first degree count of judging others. I am no different. There was an occasion where I met a guy at a function I was attending. This guy (keep in mind this is no exaggeration) was covered from neck down in tattoos. He had more piercings than a van full of screaming Justin Bieber fans. His attire came straight off page 24 of the Gothic edition of GQ men’s magazine. I placed unwarranted judgment on this guy. However, I was floored by the intelligence by which he spoke. He was a man of great character and full of ambition. I learned a great lesson that day; don’t judge.

“Don’t judge men’s wealth or godliness by their Sunday appearance.” – Benjamin Franklin

We should not be quick to judge those around us. No one wants to be judged, so why do we unfairly judge others?

When you think about judging the speck of dust in an individual’s eye ensure that you have removed the large clump of dust out of yours!

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Dream Chaser

A dream according to most definitions is a series of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations occurring involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep. Dreams mainly occur in the rapid-eye movement (REM) stage of sleep when brain activity is high resembles that of being awake. Unlike most people I lack the ability to remember my dreams (I’m still holding on to the far-fetched or slightly ludicrous theory that I don’t dream when I sleep). No matter how momentous my efforts, I always seem to wake up feeling as though the dream fairy forgot to dump some of her magical dream conjuring dust on me during my slumber.

“The moment of enlightenment is when a person’s dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities.” – Vic Braden

We all possess our own dream of the portrait we desire life’s camera to capture. No dream comes into fruition simply by sitting back and waiting like a patient in the lobby of a hospital. The fact of the matter is that we must chase our dreams. Grab on to your dreams and hold on tight as if you were lying across an inner tube being pulled along the lake by a boat travelling at high speeds.

“If you want your dreams to come true, don’t over sleep.” – Yiddish Proverb

A dream is only realized through hard work, persistence and a dash of gumption. I may not experience the images, emotions or sensations that arise during the REM stages however, I have big dreams (A condition or achievement that is longed for; an aspiration).

Do you have dreams?

Are you oversleeping?

The distance between an individual and the culmination of a dream is either shortened or lengthened by the amount of effort one exerts during the chase!

 

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