Fearly Well!

what_is_your_deepest_fear__by_aaronwalwyn-d4p5san“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us….” – Marianne Williamson

A few days ago this heart wrenching quote resonated with me with a fury that rivals that of the African sun shining down on the Serengeti at high noon. I decided to conduct an extensive self-interrogation in the hopes of uncovering my deepest fear. Fear is often defined as an unpleasant emotion resulting from the belief that someone of something is dangerous, a threat or likely to inflict some form of pain.

We all experience some level of fears specifically related to us. We may have a phobia of spiders, heights, public speaking, being alone, needles, clowns etc. We tend to avoid these things and attempt to eradicate them from our daily lives. I am no different; my deepest fear in its most simplistic form is failure. Failure to achieve my life long dreams. Failure to accomplish my goals. Failure to adhere to the stringent standards that I’ve set for myself. I have such a high level of fear towards failure that I do not desire to have anything to do with it. I attempt to rid myself of any relationships, hindrances or thoughts that would lead me down the crooked path of failure. I desire to do any and everything I’m physically capable of to ensure that I won’t experience that abhorrent and repulsive emotion.

“Fear does not have any special power unless you empower it by submitting to it.” – Les Brown

We should not allow fear to cripple us, stifle us, or cause us to assume a powerless millipede-like curled up position. We have the ability to face, conquer, an overcome any fear we have because we are indeed powerful beyond measure.

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

Don’t allow fear to become the mortar holding together the cement wall preventing you from living out your dreams!

So let me ask, what is your deepest fear?

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A Few Good Men

Each day we are reminded of how cold, and desolate this world is we inhabit. As the maxim goes, “Times have changed.” Our world has become a more violent and deadly version of what it was a few decades ago. Crime in its many atrocious forms is rising faster than a ball of yeast-filled cinnamon bread on a hot Saturday morning.

What caused this swift plummet into this worldly cesspool destitute of the values and morals that shape character?

Despite the current state of our world, we can rest assure that hope still abounds. Though it may not always seem so there are still good people out there.  A few days ago I was reminded of that. While I was knee deep into my rigorous workout routine at the gym I noticed that my cell phone was missing. I immediately scoured every inch of the gym searching for my cell phone as if it was scanning for clues on a crime scene. My phone happens to be an Iphone 4, and those things aren’t cheap. I thought someone found it and claimed it under the notion that “possession is nine-tenths the law”. After countless minutes had elapsed and my search efforts turned up void, I decided to do the unthinkable. I went to the front desk and asked the most idiotic question ever; “Did anyone happen to turn in a phone?”  To my amazement; someone had. My phone was in the exact same condition as I last remembered it.

“You don’t get in life what you want; you get in life what you are.” – Les Brown

There are good people in this world; as long as they exist there is still hope that we can ignite a change that causes our world to shift back in the right direction.

Don’t leave your character at home when you decide to go somewhere!

To the special man or woman that returned my cell phone to the front desk, if you are reading this;  Thank You!

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Habit@ for Humanity

We’ve all at one point or another acquired a behavioral pattern that has become almost involuntary. We perform these actions with pin point precision and accuracy. Unfortunately, we have the tendency to develop a few bad habits as we wake board along life’s river. They may come in the irksome or intrusive form of nail biting, knuckle cracking, cuticle picking, chronic coughing, or throat clearing.

“Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of.” – Anon

I too have my share of bad habits. During my high school years I started cracking my knuckles. I got to the point where I would crack my knuckles unconsciously. I adopted an addict-like dependency on daily hits that came in the form of knuckle cracking. I took me a few years but I was able to free myself from the wretched clutch of my knuckle cracking habit. (Now I need to work on my back and neck cracking habit)

What bad habits do you need to make a greater effort to eradicate?

Do you have the habit of tearing others down with your sharp axe-like words? Do you struggle with the need to embellish in order to paint the portrait of your life using watercolors more appeasing to the eyes of others? Are you one to “pass the buck” and place blame one everyone but yourself? Do you adopt the negative side of a situation due to a fear of disappointment?

“First we form habits, then they form us. Conquer your bad habits, or they’ll eventually conquer you.” – Dr. Rob Gilbert

Don’t miss the opportunity to snag your golden egg of success because your beanstalk of life experienced growth stunted by bad habits!

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A Not So Thunderous Storm!

According to the meteorologists and all the other weather SME’s (Subject Matter Experts); a massive thunderstorm (with anywhere from golf ball to baseball-sized hail) was going to make its way into north Texas by the early afternoon. Naturally, I tried to plan for the apocalyptic end of the world as best as I could (via toting an umbrella) once I heard the news. Of course today turned out to be a sunny, 92 degree day devoid of precipitation. A thought rang in my head like the cacophonous sound of an exasperating alarm clock at 5 in the morning.

How often do we allow ourselves to fret over things that we shouldn’t?

“Stop worrying about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey!” – Barbara Hoffman

Let’s try our best not to sweat the small stuff or become frazzled by things we cannot control. Life never works out in the exact manner that we may hope, dream, or imagine.

Benjamin Franklin stated “Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen.  Keep in the sunlight.”

Worry can become an arduous burden that can crush an individual. Don’t allow worry to steal away today’s joy!

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Live Life Simply!

Society today has adopted a “tv dinner” mentality. We want things instantly and right away. We’ve lost sight of the virtue that is patience. When we dine at a restaurant we desire to have our food served to us right away. We sometimes get agitated when we have to stand in a long check-out line moving at the top speed of molasses. We tend to want the latest, greatest and priciest things. As a result we buy things that we probably should not or can’t afford. We choose the more expensive option over the affordable one. I’m no different, I find myself doing the same thing at times. However, I’m trying to do better.

I came across the maxim “Don’t live above your means!” Adhering to those words can prevent one from plummeting in the deep chasm that is debt. So many people have found themselves in the middle of a heavy weight fight with debt and financial instability. I bought a rug not too long ago from Wal-Mart with the phrase “Live Life Simply” printed on it. I’m making an effort to do so. I’m trying my best not to live above my means. Expensive material possessions are nice but it is important remember that we will leave them all behind when we die. We don’t get to take a coach purse, 60 inch flat screen, the latest pair of Jordan shoes, or a 2013 Audi A6 with us. Let’s enjoy the finer things in life like great health, family, friends and all the other things that aren’t defined by the amount of zeros we have to the left of the decimal point in our bank account.

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Milky Situation

Today I made an impromptu stop into the grocery store (aka Wal-Mart) today to purchase a few essentials. One of the items on my list was a gallon of milk. We all know milk is usually kept at the back of the most stores. This is due to the fact that milk is usually a sunk cost. It is sold at a low price (maybe even a loss) by a store in the hope that it would attract customers to the store. Store owners feel if a customer enters the store to buy milk, by the time he/she gets to the milk he/she will already have picked up a few other items to purchase on the way to the milk (end of the economics lesson for the day).  I made the voyage to the back of the store to buy milk. When I arrived at the milk aisle I thought “I wonder how many people just simply reach in and grab the first bottle of milk their hand touches?” “Are there people out there that don’t take the time to check the expiration dates of food?”

Whenever I purchase milk or food items I perform a TSA security screening of the expiration dates on the products. I search high and low for the gallon of milk with the expiration date that is the furthest away. I would stand there and look for however long it takes. If need be, I would single out a few gallons of milk, remove them from the line and perform a more extensive search of expiration dates. I’m sure there are things that you may do that may be deemed weird by someone else. We all have our quirks that make us unique. No two people are exactly alike and that’s what makes this world such an amazing place to live. “Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks.” -Johann von Goethe

Continue to be who you are and embrace the quirks that make you an individual!

A Lasting First Impression

Yesterday I had the opportunity to meet with a hiring manager in a one on one, face-to-face type of setting. I immediately thought “I need to make a good first impression.” A first impression is truly a lasting one. It can influence whether you land a job, make a new friend, entice a random stranger to perform a random act of kindness for you, etc. However, you only have once chance to make a good first impression. Thus, you must be sure to use the opportunity wisely.  There was an occasion in which I was approached by a lady that I did not know. She came up to me with intentions of gaining my phone number in order to start a relationship with me.

Within that thirty-second conversation I was able to generate assumptions that were influenced greatly by my first impression of her. She spoke in an uneducated manner, she was dressed as though she left some type of cabaret, and she chewed gum with her mouth wide open in a similar fashion as a cow chews grass (ok maybe I was being a little nit picky there). Obviously she failed at making a good first impression on me. I didn’t share that story in order to pat myself on the back or toot my own horn. I shared the incident only to illustrate the impact a bad first impression has on future relationships with an individual. A first impression is easy to screw up and takes an abundance of time to repair. So I encourage you to be mindful of the impressions you are making on others. You never know who you are talking you! You could be talking to a hiring manager of Microsoft who will go out of his way to help you land a job. You may be talking to your future spouse. You may even be talking to a celebrity dressed as a homeless person. No matter who you engage a conversation with, ensure that you are portraying an accurate first impression of yourself! Also don’t chew gum with your mouth wide open!

See you soon blog fam!

A Not So Common Courtesy

Courtesy is often defined as the displaying of politeness in one’s behavior toward others. The word “common” is often attached to the word courtesy forming the dynamic duo we know as “common courtesy”. Common courtesy seldom exists in today’s society. Society has now shifted to mindset of only looking out for him or herself (often referred to as “Numero Uno”). We experience examples of this every day we choose to leave our places of residence and venture out into the unknown regions of this world. I’d like to apologize in advance for the rant that will ensue in the next few lines you will read related to today’s subject matter.

Let’s not rush through a pink light (a light that’s been yellow for a while and is now turning red) at an intersection and block two lanes, thus causing a bottleneck in traffic. Let’s try to use manners and perhaps acknowledge someone’s expression of kindness towards us with a simple “thank you”. I may be talking crazy but let’s attempt the unfathomable and stop in order to allow a motorist to turn into traffic and proceed ahead of us (this occurs once every blue moon in Texas). Let’s allow the person with one item in their cart to jump ahead of us in line seeing as we have a cart full of items. Also if you have a cart overflowing with items, don’t proceed to check out all those items at the self-check-out kiosks at Wal-Mart.

We’ve all had experienced situations where courtesy was nonexistent. Courtesy is an element which we need to re-implement in society. Just so we are all on page 40 at the same time, I want to make it clear that common courtesy does not involve you allowing yourself to become a welcome mat for everyone to dust their feet on or walk all over you. A simple injection of common courtesy can make a world of difference in the lives of those around us. So I implore you to take common courtesy out for a test drive sometime!

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Same old, Same old

Today was a typical morning for me. I woke up (I felt like I aged forty years due to soreness stemming from my participation in a basketball game at 10pm last night), turned on my tv and flipped to ESPN to watch Sportscenter. Instantaneously a light bulb went off in my head. “I do this every morning!” I’m sure we all have heard some variation of the phrase “As humans, we are creatures of habit.” This is true. I’m not a betting man, but I am confident that you can think of at least one thing you do the exact same way every day. We all have our routines. They may involve ordering the same item off the menu a restaurant, welcoming a workday with a cup of Starbucks, going to the gym at the same time each day, or in my case; watching an hour of Sportscenter in the morning.

We all have specific actions we repeat the exact same way every day. My advice to you is not to allow yourself to become so concerned with always abiding by the law of your routine. I’ve encountered so many people who allow something as simple as not being able to drink their favorite cup of coffee to cause them to be miserable for the entire day. Routines are nice but it’s always a good idea to “switch things up” every once in a while. Get out of the mundane rut of the routine you’ve been involved with for so long. You don’t have to change everything but just make a few small changes. For instance, if you always purchase a Frappuccino at Starbucks; buy an iced peppermint white chocolate mocha next time. If you usually pull your car forward into an empty parking spot, reverse it in next time. You should switch things up to engage your brain, stimulate your creativity and so that you’ll be happier throughout your day. I dare you to try it and see the difference!

Until we meet again….

A Thankful Mentality

An interesting phrase sparked my interest today. The phrase in question was “Be Thankful!” The simplicity of this phrase does not diminish the high level of power behind it. So often we tend to direct our focus on what we do not have. We even tend to become envious of others and their materials possessions. We should not adopt this state of mind. I knew a girl who indicated to her parents that she desired a 2010 Ford Mustang once she got her license. The day arrived when she received her license and her parents bought her a Ford Mustang. The girl saw the mustang and she wasn’t happy because it was a 2008 Ford Mustang and not a 2010. There are so many people in this world that wish they could have a 2008 Ford Mustang.

We should be thankful for what we have. There are so many people in this world who aren’t as fortunate as we are. Many people don’t even know where their next meal will come from. The fact that you are reading this blog entry illustrates how blessed you are. Don’t resort to complaining about not having a Mercedes when you own a vehicle that gets you from point A to point B. There are many things I am thankful for. I’m thankful for my health, a roof over my head, a car to drive, a great family, friends, and the few ounces of Cheerios I have left in my cupboard. Not matter what our situation may be; we can always give thanks to man above for the blessings we have received.

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