Judge Me Not!

In society today there is a virus that is spreading as fast as a juicy gossip amongst high school students during lunch period. The virus in question is the practice of undeservedly placing judgment on others. The word “judge” can be defined as forming an estimate or evaluation of; especially to form a negative opinion about.

How often do we find ourselves judging others without any possessing an ounce of incriminating evidence that could hold up in the court of law? We are often quick to judge an individual based on what we see rather than taking the time to get to know the individual for who they are. We may even judge others in a negative light for the sheer purpose of making ourselves look better via false confidence.

We all plead guilty to first degree count of judging others. I am no different. There was an occasion where I met a guy at a function I was attending. This guy (keep in mind this is no exaggeration) was covered from neck down in tattoos. He had more piercings than a van full of screaming Justin Bieber fans. His attire came straight off page 24 of the Gothic edition of GQ men’s magazine. I placed unwarranted judgment on this guy. However, I was floored by the intelligence by which he spoke. He was a man of great character and full of ambition. I learned a great lesson that day; don’t judge.

“Don’t judge men’s wealth or godliness by their Sunday appearance.” – Benjamin Franklin

We should not be quick to judge those around us. No one wants to be judged, so why do we unfairly judge others?

When you think about judging the speck of dust in an individual’s eye ensure that you have removed the large clump of dust out of yours!

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Self Critically

During one of my past interviews at Company X (I’ll keep the company name a mystery seeing as I still desire to work there someday) I was asked the questions, “What are your 3 biggest Strengths? What are your 3 biggest weaknesses?” Naturally I was taken aback. Those questions hit me with the force and velocity of a Mike Tyson right hook (prior to dining on ear lobes and adorning face tattoos) at point blank range. The answer to those questions can be interpreted a myriad of ways depending on the individual. So do you give three weaknesses and risk diminishing the brand image (yourself) that you are trying to sell to a company in order to entice them to hire you? Or do you provide one or two weakness and hope that your strengths will be strong enough to suffice? My response comprised of three strengths and two weaknesses. Company X indicated “they didn’t feel as though I wasn’t self-critical enough.”

“It’s not what you are that holds you back; it’s what you think you’re not!” – Anonymous

How often are we too critical of ourselves to the point where we begin to over analyze things we shouldn’t? We may take a picture and complain about imperfections that aren’t noticed by anyone else. How many times do we complain about our flaws or qualities we lack? Some individuals over analyze themselves to the point where they chop down their self-worth tree in a lumberjack-like fashion and plummet into a state of depression.

“He who undervalues himself is justly undervalued by others.”- William Hazlitt

Driving along the self-critical highway is a good thing as long as we don’t get disorientated via over-analyzing and lost in the State of Depression!

Disclaimer: If you are approached with the dreaded greatest strengths and weaknesses question during an interview please do not allow my experience with Company X to sway your response in any way.

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Dream Chaser

A dream according to most definitions is a series of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations occurring involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep. Dreams mainly occur in the rapid-eye movement (REM) stage of sleep when brain activity is high resembles that of being awake. Unlike most people I lack the ability to remember my dreams (I’m still holding on to the far-fetched or slightly ludicrous theory that I don’t dream when I sleep). No matter how momentous my efforts, I always seem to wake up feeling as though the dream fairy forgot to dump some of her magical dream conjuring dust on me during my slumber.

“The moment of enlightenment is when a person’s dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities.” – Vic Braden

We all possess our own dream of the portrait we desire life’s camera to capture. No dream comes into fruition simply by sitting back and waiting like a patient in the lobby of a hospital. The fact of the matter is that we must chase our dreams. Grab on to your dreams and hold on tight as if you were lying across an inner tube being pulled along the lake by a boat travelling at high speeds.

“If you want your dreams to come true, don’t over sleep.” – Yiddish Proverb

A dream is only realized through hard work, persistence and a dash of gumption. I may not experience the images, emotions or sensations that arise during the REM stages however, I have big dreams (A condition or achievement that is longed for; an aspiration).

Do you have dreams?

Are you oversleeping?

The distance between an individual and the culmination of a dream is either shortened or lengthened by the amount of effort one exerts during the chase!

 

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Innovative Thinking!

A few days ago I stood in the middle of my kitchen for two minutes waging war against the dreaded adversary know as indecision. I knew I was famished but I couldn’t decide which entrée to prepare. Therefore I decided to go against the grain and allow my creative Food Network-like juices to flow and construct (or as I like to refer to it, “experiment with the aim of creating”) a dish on my own. No cookbook, no plan, no agenda, no rhyme or reason. I wanted to step out of my security bubble and try something different.

“CREATIVITY is thinking up new things. INNOVATION is doing new things.” – Theodore Levitt

We should all make an effort to apply the underlying concept of innovation throughout our daily lives. Let’s try to do new things. Let’s attempt to be courteous and show kindness to those that tend to rub us the wrong way. Help someone in need as opposed to doing the popular thing; looking awkwardly in the other direction. Rise above the influence and take a stand against mediocrity, violence, and all the other social norms which has sent our world into a tailspin. Be the positive influence on those around you, rather than allowing those around to influence you in a not so positive way.

“Prosperity belongs to those who learn new things the fastest.” – Paul Zane Pilzer

What new things do you need to add to your cookbook of life? Step out and conduct your own experiment (via trying new things) in order to fashion your own palatable gourmet meal of prosperity!

I know your probably wondering, I made scrumptious breaded chicken strips from an array of clandestine ingredients. (Sorry, the recipe is now a trade secret).

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What’s Your Motivation?

Have you ever had a day when you felt as though you got knocked out by an MMA cage fighter, run over by a bus and left in the middle of the Australian Outback somewhere to waste away? I admit my prior use imagery was a bit extreme but we all experience days in which we feel run down and weary. We lack the slightest zephyr needed to turn the wind turbines that propel energy through our veins. I experienced this feeling on a personal level today.

“One may go a long way after one is tired.” – Proverb

Motivation is often defined as the psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal and elicits, controls, and sustains certain goal directed behaviors.

How often are we motivated to perform an act that would have a positive impact on someone’s life? How willing are we to sacrifice our time in order to paint a smile on the canvas that is an individual’s face? Are you being motivated by self less or selfish desires? Are you even motivated at all?

“Am I motivated by what I really want out of life — or am I mass-motivated?” –Earl Nightingale

Life’s pie tastes a lot better when baked with a filling comprised of unselfish motivations!

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Hit or Miss!

Last week I took my first official golf lesson with a swing doctor. My intentions were to absorb as much information as I could through the semi permeable membrane of my cranium in osmosis like fashion that would aid in the improvement of my golf game (I’m self-taught golfer that got bite by the golf bug a few years ago). The instructor indicated the changes I needed to implement in order to groove (improve) my swing. However, I found myself reverting back to my old incorrect way of swinging the golf club. In my mind I felt as though I was swinging correctly but my body unconsciously reverted by to the wrong swing pattern.

How often do we struggle like this in our daily lives?

In our minds we know the right swing pattern (actions, decisions, behavioral responses) to make however, we allow ourselves to regress back into our old manner of swinging (repeating past mistakes, making wrong decisions etc.).

“The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” – Gent. H. Norman Schwarzkopf

If you apply the correct golf swing as you play the 18 holes of your life, you’ll experience success via birdies, eagles, double eagles and hole in one’s along the way!

Which swing do you plan on making?

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A Few Good Men

Each day we are reminded of how cold, and desolate this world is we inhabit. As the maxim goes, “Times have changed.” Our world has become a more violent and deadly version of what it was a few decades ago. Crime in its many atrocious forms is rising faster than a ball of yeast-filled cinnamon bread on a hot Saturday morning.

What caused this swift plummet into this worldly cesspool destitute of the values and morals that shape character?

Despite the current state of our world, we can rest assure that hope still abounds. Though it may not always seem so there are still good people out there.  A few days ago I was reminded of that. While I was knee deep into my rigorous workout routine at the gym I noticed that my cell phone was missing. I immediately scoured every inch of the gym searching for my cell phone as if it was scanning for clues on a crime scene. My phone happens to be an Iphone 4, and those things aren’t cheap. I thought someone found it and claimed it under the notion that “possession is nine-tenths the law”. After countless minutes had elapsed and my search efforts turned up void, I decided to do the unthinkable. I went to the front desk and asked the most idiotic question ever; “Did anyone happen to turn in a phone?”  To my amazement; someone had. My phone was in the exact same condition as I last remembered it.

“You don’t get in life what you want; you get in life what you are.” – Les Brown

There are good people in this world; as long as they exist there is still hope that we can ignite a change that causes our world to shift back in the right direction.

Don’t leave your character at home when you decide to go somewhere!

To the special man or woman that returned my cell phone to the front desk, if you are reading this;  Thank You!

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